Angelism: “Money can’t buy confidence but if it could it would be worth saving every penny for.”
I have had a very busy summer and the most important thing I learned is that confidence is everything. After spending quality time with my family and friends, mainly touring Los Angeles (LA), and observing all the wonders that LA LA Land has to offer, I realized just how important confidence is. As you can imagine the people watching in LA gets 5 out of 5 stars, especially in summer when tourists are out and about. This year I stepped outside the norm, tried new things, and even faced a few fears. Without confidence in who you are, what you have to offer, and what you believe in, you are doomed!!!
Many of you know I am a huge fan of LA. If I had a dollar for every time I have promoted my love for the City of Angels I would be rich. But this is a city you have got to have confidence in or you will regret living here. Surrounded by wealthy, fit, and beautiful people, who are tan, energetic, and always out having fun, can be intimidating. You have to know and accept your place, not fear being one of many fish in this giant sea, and you must work hard because this city is not one that hands out any favors. I have lived here for ten years and I have loved it every day of my life. Despite the cost and traffic, there is nowhere I’d rather be. I am confident this is home and it feels good.
Although I have mad love for LA, I do have a few harsh opinions from observing life here. I think having idols or wanting to be like the Kardashians is crap! The average person does not have four hours to get ready or endless funds to look perfectly plastic. I think it’s awful how they like to pretend that’s a natural, every day look for a woman. The amount of vanity that family has is scary. Why would you want to waste so much effort and money on appearance alone? This leads to my next observation of people trying to be something they are not. Please stop. Faking your reality is ridiculous. Be who you are because real people and true friends can read right through your bullshit. Using social media outlets like Facebook to try and convince all your hundreds/ thousands of friends that you are Martha fucking Stewart or that you are happy in your crappy marriage when everyone knows you are on verge of divorce is lame. People can read through your lies and believe me they are laughing and gossiping about you. I think women who get cute for the gym and wear full make-up at 6am to work out are insecure idiots. Purchasing fake boobs that are so big I can’t comfortably hug you makes you look like a fuck-tard too. And if you get so much Botox your eyes don’t blink and so many injections your cheeks don’t move, then realize that everyone is laughing at you for that.If you want to earn respect, be appreciated for what you bring to this world, and be known as a trustworthy, confident, and real individual, DON’T BE FAKE. Have confidence and stop living in fear and being a victim to what you think you should be in this world. I am all for making an effort to look your best but there are levels of caring for yourself that are a waste of money and time. When you take the fake route as a way to feel better, your confidence is doomed because you can’t run from insecurity. Practice being you. There is only one you and you are beautiful.
Life is not easy, money doesn’t grow on trees, jobs are disposable, kids don’t listen, family members fight, accidents occur, relationships let you down, people are mean, and shit happens. Be confident that no matter what comes your way you have the smarts to figure it out. Confidence is going to bed with no worries, no wandering thoughts of negativity keeping you up, and no questioning your choices because you trust that you can handle life. I know it’s impossible to be confident about all things because it’s impossible to know everything. My advice is to be confident when you lack confidence. For example, I have no skills at gardening and I could claim a lack of confidence in that area but why? I have faith that if I really want to learn about gardening, I can do the research, start a small garden, and nurture it. If I fail, I can try again by taking a new approach to planting. Worse case scenario, if it’s hopeless after endless attempts, I can hire someone to do it for me. I am 100% confident that if I really want a garden, I can have a garden.
CONFIDENCE! Having it is the key to a healthy and wonderful life.