Who Are You & What Do You Want?

 
Angelism: be who you are and know THAT IT is enough.

 

Today I raise this question, “Who are you and what do you want?” Remove all the expectations others have of you and answer this for yourself. If you can answer with confidence, then you will be successful no matter what craziness gets thrown your way. Many people go decades without ever considering their wants. Some people settle in their seemingly comfortable and predictable life and never reassess the situation. You change and grow all the time. You learn everyday. If you are not changing and learning with some consistency then you are stuck. Even if you are totally happy in your routine, there is still room to do more to enhance your life. Never limit yourself. Your life will only be happy and interesting if you make it that way.

Who are you?

Do you have a positive or negative answer? If you are drawing a blank, pull it together. You should know the answer to this question. The answer should be your truth – not what you want it to be, but what your family and friends would agree that you are. It’s about owning your character and accepting who you are. Through acceptance you find unconditional love for yourself and others. How well do you know you?

My response to this question currently is:

I’m happy, a good companion, devoted friend, loving and accepting daughter, hard worker, a planner, a dreamer, organized and clean, hopeful, a woman of faith, a leader, a motivator, forgiving, creative, lucky, and fun! I am an emotionally connected individual with a crazy, outgoing, and youthful personality. I am loyal to a fault and have learned from this. I have a positive attitude, for every problem I welcome the opportunity to find a solution. I’m proud of who I am and  make every effort to work on my less appealing qualities.

Sometimes I tune people out when I think what they are saying is not important. In the past, I was more focused on my response in a conversation, rather than listening to it. This was a huge life lesson. I sadly can’t sit still when I’m at home because I can think of a million other things more productive that I should do. I have always struggled with my weight, and  I beat myself up because of my high expectations. I’m passionate about my beliefs and can come  across judgmental because of them. I complain when I shouldn’t, I’m a stubborn Taurus, and I get annoyed when things don’t go as planned. When I believe in something very strongly you can’t convince me otherwise. When I’m right in my head, I’m positively right, period. I own these qualities even though they are not my finest. This is who I am. The good and the bad. I’m not perfect but I’m confident that I know me.

Angelism: I’m not my job, my stuff, or my mistakes. I’m not my past or my misfortunes. I’m me and me is good enough!

What do you want?

Once you are confident in who you are, you then must answer; “What do you want?” Think hard about this. If there was every possibility that you could actually achieve what you want, what would it be?

For me I want: 

Health, wealth, love, happiness, quality friendships, independence, a loving relationship, and lots of time to travel. I want to be my own boss, I want to earn financial freedom, and I want to travel the world. I want to write creatively and be a success. I want to give back to the community and those less fortunate than me. I want to continue learning and hopefully live a long healthy life in which to do all these things. I trust in my heart I will get it, if not in this moment then someday. I have been blessed with health, love, happiness, good friends, some amazing travel adventures and a great companion. I have many of my wants and now my focus is financial security. I’m putting independent wealth on my request to the universe. Are you listing universe?

So again, I ask, “Who are you and what do you want?” Your answer may look shorter than this or it may take up multiple sheets of paper. Either way, you should be able to sit down with a pen and paper and answer these two questions thoroughly. In a year, or two, or three, the answer may change drastically. Know who you are and know what you want in each phase of life. Be confident in the answer and open to changing it as life moves on and takes twists and turns. 


Throw Away Your Vitamins!!!

Angelism: “A healthier you doesn’t come in an over the counter bottle. Stop being fooled by the media, if you are concerned about your health, go to the doctors & have your blood drawn. There, you will find answers.”

I rarely discuss health topics but vitamins and over the counter weight loss pills are crap! Much like many of you, I believed in bottled nutrients and thought they were the key to good health. In my early 20’s I used to take anti-oxidants for immunity, papaya and garlic for good digestion, and fat burners to boost my metabolism. I assumed I’d be healthier, trimmer, and lose weight, all while maintaining energy. What a waste! Now that I work in the medical field I have learned more about nutrition and how the body works. If there is one thing that has been drilled into my head, it is that vitamins are a waste of money and that taking them may do more harm than good.

Now don’t assume all vitamins are bad. Over the counter vitamins do have a purpose. They exist to replenish a nutrient in your body that you are deficient in. How do you know if you are deficient? Go to the doctor’s office and have your labs drawn. If your lab work proves you are deficient then you can take a supplement per the doctor’s orders; if not don’t waste your money. Never diagnose yourself. Your answers to better health will likely not be found in an expensive bottle at the local health food store.

Marketing thrives on informing us that certain vitamins are healthy and will enhance our life. Yes, getting your daily vitamins is important, but this does not mean you need to physically take supplements. In today’s society, food is easily accessible and nutrients are sprinkled into even the unhealthiest of foods. Many of us are nowhere near a deficiency in any one vitamin. The crappiest of breakfast cereals have powdered nutrients in it, and those high fructose corn syrup beverages many Americans drink are doused in vitamin C. Why would you need to take more vitamins? When is the last time you have known of someone having scurvy? Deficiencies are rare. If you eat enough food daily and have a variety of foods in your diet, you are not going to need supplements. If you are concerned, get your blood drawn at your doctor’s office and verify that you are OK.

As for all the other supplements available like Acai Berry pills, Green Tea Extract pills, and other fat burners and over the counter diet pills; I think they are not healthy and a waste of money. There is no answer or quick fix to health and weight loss. If you want to be healthier, look and feel better, then guess what? You will have to work hard to achieve it. Diet and exercise on a regular basis throughout your ENTIRE LIFE is key. Every day it has to be an awareness and a choice. Every day you have to want to be good to your body and take care of it. Health is not something you can buy, it is something you have to earn all on your own!


Exercise or be FAT!

Angelism: “If you don’t move your body you lose your body.

 
“Exercise or be fat!” I have come to the realization that without regular exercise and constant awareness of what I put in my mouth, I will be fat; not a little fat, a lot fat. Some women have the luxury of eating all they want, never working out, and being a size zero. Other women can workout a day or two a week, watch their diet, and maintain their weight. I don’t fit in these categories. I look at pizza and my zipper pops open.
A decade ago I had two knee surgeries that had me gimping around for eight months. This situation contributed to a 25 pound weight gain. I was officially the heaviest I had ever been and tipped well into the 200 pound category which was more than I could wrap my head around. I was miserable and my problem solver was Ben and Jerry’s ice cream for comfort. Every day recovering from knee surgeries I struggled with pain and felt defeated. The additional weight I was lugging around made me weak and weighed me down. I became lazy in life for a short time and it took a toll on my body instantly. My cholesterol numbers went up and I was winded walking up one flight of stairs. I knew if I did not do something immediately, my weight would skyrocket. I made a commitment to myself to exercise a minimum of three days a week for the rest of my life. This was quite a big goal. I started out with 30 minutes of cardio three days a week, then increased it to four. After a few months I was spending more time at the gym and feeling much better. It took me three years of being cautious of what I put in my mouth, and a minimum of three days a week of exercise, to lose the 20+ pounds I gained. Eight months to gain it and 36 months to lose it. What a joke!!! I know many of you can relate. Regardless of how long it takes me to get to my ideal weight, being healthy is my goal. I am about 10-15 pounds overweight according to the doctors, but I am 5’10 and fit. Maybe I’m not fit on paper, but in real life, I can kick some ass. I ran a half marathon with two bum legs and 188 pounds of strong and healthy woman curves.
Now my focus is to forever stay away from that 200 number no matter what. Today I biked for 5 miles, walked one mile, did 45 minutes of heavy arm weights, and stretched. I will be lucky to maintain my weight for the day. I didn’t eat like a pig, but I didn’t deprive myself either. I have tried all kinds of diets and nothing makes me skinny. I love all types of foods, variety keeps my taste buds happy. So does wine! All this training at the gym and no rewards would suck! Since genetics is not on my side, if I want to enjoy food, I can fight obesity by MOVING. So my quote, “Exercise or be fat,” is a reminder of the consequence I face if I’m lazy. I wish this was not the circumstance but I accept it. For all you skinny girls, be grateful; for those of you needing some motivation to shed the extra pounds, maybe this story will be that little push. Get moving, it makes all the difference.
Before I sign off, I want to announce that I am proud that my goal to exercise a minimum of three days a week has not been broken for a decade. I have fit in my workouts on weeks I was sick, traveling, tired, or too busy. The result is I FEEL GREAT! I was serious the day I made this choice to live well; no turning back now. Unless someone runs me over, good luck stopping me!
Step 1 – Know your number. If you don’t own a scale, get one. The number does not lie!