Angelism: Not all boyfriends have to be real. Some first loves simply teach us through their role on television or through the lyrics in a song.
Today is a sad day for women around the world. If you were a teen or young adult in the 90’s, your heart is crushed. The passing of Luke Perry has us Gen X kids speechless. Women are in tears reminiscing of their youth crush now gone, and men of this generation are officially questioning their own mortality. Luke Perry, AKA Dylan McKay from 90210, passed away from a stroke today at the age of 52.
As a huge Beverly Hills 90210 fan, I simply must take a moment to share and honor what the character of Dylan McKay taught me.
1) Bad boys are good!
2) Sideburns are super hot!
3) Denim on denim does work!
4) It’s OK to wait to take the virginity of the girl you love.
5) Have a hot, nice, best friend and one nerdy one.
6) A black convertible old school Porsche makes a guy look damn sexy.
7) Ditch school and go have fun. It’s always worth it!
8) Sometimes getting drunk and passing out is OK.
9) Kiss softly… whisper sweet nothings… buy flowers…. and hold the door for your girl.
10) Losing My Religion to this day is still a good song because every time I hear it I picture Dylan and Brenda making out. So lesson learned, for every good make-out session you gotta have a memorable SONG!
Thank you Luke for being one of my first boyfriends. Your character in 90210 taught me a little bit about what I did and didn’t want in a young guy. Your ability to be tough and cool, all while kind and sweet, was adorable. You taught me about peer pressure, sex, money, drugs, and alcohol. You made it OK to have family issues and personal struggles. You taught me sometimes a man is strong and determined and other times he’s a lost soul. Your character had depth and flavor, and decades later, I still appreciate the gift you gave to me. Rest in peace Luke Perry/ Dylan McKay. I love you!
Angelism: CONFIDENCE! Having it is the key to a healthy and wonderful life no matter what your size, sex, color, or social status.
Money can’t buy confidence but if it could it would be worth saving every penny for. I learned long ago that confidence is everything. Today, after watching Rebel Wilson in her newest movie, Isn’t it Romantic, I was reminded of how limiting life can be for people who don’t possess confidence. I can’t stress enough how important it is to know who you are and what you want. We are all unique; self-doubt does not discriminate so don’t let it rule your existence.
Many of you know I’m a huge fan of Los Angeles. If I had a dollar for every time I have promoted my love for the City of Angels I would be rich. But this is a city you must have confidence in or you are doomed! Surrounded by wealthy, fit, and beautiful people, who are tan, energetic, and always out having fun, can be very intimidating. You have to know and accept your place, not fear being one of many fish in a giant sea, and you must work hard because LA does not hand out favors. I have lived here for sixteen years and I have loved every minute of it. Despite the high-cost and traffic, there is nowhere I’d rather be. I’m confident this is my home and it feels good. I’m not an actress, model, or a rich trust fund baby. Not “having it all” doesn’t deter me, I’m where I want to be and I love living a life I enjoy.
Now back to today’s movie. I so appreciated that it completely dissed on romantic comedy films. It showed all the fake fluff that makes what every day people find dreamy and lust for. I may have mad love for LA, but I dislike the things that make this city feel plastic. Fake-like humans, for example the Kardashians, are not realistic. The average person does not have four hours to get ready or endless funds to look perfect. I think it’s awful how they like to pretend that this is a natural way of going about your days. The amount of vanity that family has is scary. The other plastic side of LA are the fakers. Faking your reality is ridiculous. Be who you are because real people and true friends can read right through you. Using social media outlets like Facebook to try and convince all your hundreds/ thousands of friends that you are happy in your crappy marriage when everyone knows you are on verge of divorce is lame. People can read through your lies and believe me they are laughing and gossiping about you. Be the best you, and enjoy it, even if it’s during a divorce!
Confidence is being the same sexy person whether you are sweaty and gross at the gym or in full make-up ready for the red carpet. It means aging gracefully and accepting the wisdom and adventure that it brings. I’m all for doing a little work to enhance your appearance if you really think it will look nice, but if you get so much Botox your eyes don’t blink, and so many injections that your cheeks don’t move, then you are insecure and people will judge. To earn respect and be appreciated for what you bring to this world DON’T BE FAKE. Have confidence and stop living in fear of what others think.
Angelism: Nothing prepared me for adulting more than a little (or a lot of) alcohol!
Hands down this is my favorite shirt and it speaks volumes of exactly how I feel. This top was kindly gifted to me by a bestie Yasmin who knows my personality inside and out! Truth is, I’m a fun party girl at heart. Not in a hot mess, wasted, can’t get my life together way; but a let’s rage and have fun tonight like rock-stars because responsibility will strike again soon! Sadly, that soon is always sooner than I prefer.
Monday – Friday, working for the man, abiding by all the darn rules of life, and living responsibly, I have to stick to a strict schedule. I eat healthy meals, drink lots of water, put myself to bed on time, and reluctantly put on my big girl panties every day. I stay focused and driven, lead my team, and care for those who need me. Every week with a smile, I power through all the little requirements of my big fat adult life: my job, maintaining relationships, paying rent, filtering through the stack of bills and contracts, whatever it is, I get my shit done. But, come Friday night, look out because I will be ready to drop it like it’s hot!
I don’t promote alcholism, but…. I do believe everything is good for you in moderation. I simply cram my daily 1-2 drinks of moderation into only my weekend days because adult beverages are yummy and I usually want a half dozen or more. Whether it is wine and champagne, beer and shots, or a fresh fruity cocktail, a good drink tastes delicious and it takes the edge off. A couple drinks opens people up, generates energy, and often leads to fun and some pretty entertaining memories. In a nutshell, best part of being an adult for me is being able to buy liquor and get into bars so that I may enjoy an adult night of whatever the hell I want.
So, cheers to all those like me who appreciate a fun-filled Blackout Friday, Saturday to Forget, or Sunday Funday Bubbly Brunch! I do not judge your desire to have bottomless mimosas with breakfast. Alcohol makes being an adult a little bit more manageable.
Angelism: Attraction is hard to hide. Even a simple crush can be obvious. Don’t be blind to these connections in your own life.
I know nothing of these two fabulous celebrities personally, but I recognize crushing, goo-goo eyes when I see it! Does anyone else notice the way Gaga looks at Bradley? I cannot be the only one who thinks this. Truly, in my most intimate of moments, I’m not sure I have ever gushed with such intensity for someone, especially publicly. Thus far in the media they are claiming it’s admiration, an instant friendship, and a genuine connection; I’m calling bullshit and stating my theory is that this is (or was) hot and heavy, between the sheets, total infatuation.
This could likely be another Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie awkward situation. The difference here though is I do not feel that Bradley is as interested in Gaga as one may think. I get the vibe of He’s Just Not That Into You, and that he is playing nice during award season to maintain the image of their sincere bond and commitment to the story and work. I think Bradley already tapped that ass and is thinking he can ride this out and move along when the buzz of the movie and soundtrack fades.
Don’t get me wrong, I love both of these celebs. I think they are extremely talented and they deserve an insane amount of attention for their work in A Star is Born. Whether they end up together or not, I only wish them the best. But, something tells me there is more to this connection off screen and I can’t wait to watch it unfold in the weeks and months to come. We all know, any kind of knocking-boots on the down-low always surfaces as the cover story in Hollywood. Time will tell!
Angelism: Climate change is real! The universe continues to show us how angry it is, I suggest we listen and stop resisting.
January 2019 brought an official winter to Los Angeles. Here in SoCal we have been hit with weather so chilly that it has included rain, thunder, and lightning. Weather so cold that we actually had a few 40 degree nights! Locals are all complaining about how miserable it is oustside and how awful it is to drive and do things in “this weather.” Although I am one of these whiney people, I’m fully aware that we all need to shut the f#ck up! People are literally freezing and dying in other states. Yes, legit dying! They are being advised not to have conversations outside because their lungs are freezing from sub-zero temperatures. So to do my part, I will embrace our cold weather here in California and spread some happiness dressed like an eskimo on my 50 degree winter days. Figure this is me doing my small part to commit to a complaint free world! 🙂
Sending hugs and love to those in the Midwest and East Coast. Sounds like there is more harsh weather ahead. Stay warm!
Angelism: New year new year! This does not work! Your goals don’t mean a damn thing after February 1st!
92% of New Years Resolutions Fail!
January encourages everyone to get their shit together. New Years goals are blasted on marketing materials and every retailer promotes workout gear and diet plans. By February most people feel like failures. The gung-ho take off for a perfect start to a great new year is crap and has us all chowing down on chocolate and champagne by Valentines day. So why year after year do we all put so much weight on the New Years Goal? My assumption is our intentions are good and it feels right to have a fresh start. End of day, if you don’t have good habits already, you’re likely to fail!
The focus should be setting small achievable goals spaced out throughout the year. Maybe at first you decide to give up soda. Then after two months you give up ice cream. After that maybe you vow to stop eating fast food. These little life changes spaced out over the course of your year will allow for long-term success. But you have to REALLY want it. Goals are only achievable when you manage them realistically and adjust them as needed when life changes come up.
Angelism: Wish not to grow up, for once you grow up you will quickly learn that adulting sucks!
Angelism: Enjoy every second you are gifted in this life, your last breath may be the one you are taking right now.
My heart breaks a little today hearing this news. Alan Thicke, dead at 69 years of age, apparently was out playing hockey with his 19 year old son when he suffered from a heart-attack. Do you think when Alan left the house to go play with his son today that he had the thought by end of the day he’d be dead? He always looked great for his age, seemingly took good care of himself, and always appeared to be vibrant and full of energy. I simply can’t believe it!
Angelism: Knowledge is power & knowing the details of your roots is amazing & eye opening.